My Thoughts on Sandy Hook

Our nation had a tragedy just last Friday. Many children and adults had lost their lives for no reason. It is difficult not to be impacted by the pain and sorrow, whether or not you have children. I am sure everyone had held their children extra hard and have tried to figure out ways to explain this that wouldn’t destroy innocence forever. For me, I had to walk away from my son and gather my own thoughts before I could hold him again.

I don’t take emotional pain well. When I’m in extreme emotional distress, I lose it all. I get angry, physical, and I can become self destructive. I could say it has to do with my depression, but I don’t like labeling and blaming a disease on the way I react to high emotional stress. Instead, I become proactive. When I see that I am starting to become someone I don’t want to be, I walk away and write.

On Friday, I was fine until nighttime. I got angry at my husband and yelled at him. And, it was for something that didn’t matter. I had to take the time to step back and just write. This event impacted me close to the same as my brother’s accident when I was in seventh grade. I can only imagine the pain the families of Newtown are feeling and I wish there was a way that I could tell them that I feel their pain. The thing is, we all feel their pain. Those children who have lost their lives aren’t truly dead, because we all have them in our hearts. These children, and now every child before and after them, are the most important thing in all of our lives.

I have been reading on Facebook how the gun laws should be changed or the mental healthcare should be reformed. My husband is on the opinion that teachers should be allowed firearms in the school, but my stepfather believes something needs to be done about semi-automatic weapons. Both are affiliated in the same political views, but both have drastic thoughts on the gun laws because of this.

Me? I’m of the opinion that teachers shouldn’t be given guns. A single teacher can be taking care of twenty children, that is 40 little hands to watch. As if a teacher’s job isn’t difficult enough, making sure those 40 little hands don’t touch a firearm only makes work that much more difficult. The risk, in my opinion, is too great. However, this doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t protect our children. There is a need for employment and we have highly capable military veterans who know the rules of a firearm and have the capabilities to work in a high stress environment.

Why not utilize what we have and make a proactive stance on our children’s safety? Malls have security guards, why not the schools? Private schools have advanced security systems, but not the public schools?

Even metal detectors are a great idea. Sure, they are synonymous with low end neighborhoods and schools, but they do protect in some form. We can invent a way for the front doors of a school to become metal detectors without making it look like they belong in an airport.

Think on it, by having this form of security, we will have the time and energy left to reform mental health and gun laws. Talking about those issues is a good idea, but they won’t change fast enough for our children to remain safe. Voting and campaigning takes time, reform takes time, developing a working security system may take time, but it will take less time than what people are arguing about. People, mental health and gun laws are important, but what is more important is insuring our future’s safety.

1 thought on “My Thoughts on Sandy Hook”

  1. Having come close to losing my child in a tragedy I have profound feelings for those families. When I worked with Midwives in the UK I met a Bangladeshi woman who lost her child soon after his birth. The Midwife asked her if she attended the funeral. Her response was shear horror and disbelief, “Parents don’t bury their children.” It is against the ways of nature. So true.

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